Why it is a tradgedy that it's hard to be friends first

***I'm gonna start posting warnings at the top here for those of you who are allergic to bad language...So. Warning: bad language.***

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Me being a hormonal boy-crazed banshee that also happens to know the difference between reality and just plain-stupid cinematic romance, this crosses my mind a lot.

Mostly because, I'm just saying, the kind of guy I'M into is practically an endangered species.

Anyway, while I frikkin' love movies like '50 First Dates' and stuff where sometimes they instantly fall for each other, I can't help but loathing how some kids strive for that.
I learned the hard way that it's absolute bullshit.
If I know someone who's got a new significant other that they've only known a short while, I congratulate them and then find the nearest bathroom to vomit. Kay not really but that's my attitude towards this situation.
I understand it's hard to hold back. If they're cute, and if they're ogling you, and if you're ogling them, then the instincts kick in and tell you to pursue THOSE feelings that will lead to snogging, groping, and the like, instead of common sense.
Yeah? But what if you start dating them and they end up to be complete assholes? If you tried to be friends first you wouldn't feel so bad. But if you swap spit and THEN figure it out, it's worse.
You will bring about your own pain, and they'll help you with that because you found out they are assholes. It's both your fault. I know this. I've been there.

For me, it was a moment where I decided to act on impulse. I am NOT that kind of person. I just don't do that. So I thought, "Hmm, what if I tried something different?"
HOW many fuckin' times have we thought THAT!?
Often times, it's a good thing. Because we're talking about a change of acne medication or daily routine. But if you're like me and you stick to caution and thinking about things first and you try just ONCE to be impulsive...well...man, you could be fucked.
Kids, I'm gonna tell you a little story.
Once upon a time I decided that I could be impulsive and gutsy. An opportunity doesn't present itself hardly at all presented itself that allowed me to try this.
Man, I was so wrapped up in the male-attention, and the affection, I was ignorantly happy, that it was two months before I realized this guy was MESSED UP.
Parasitic, attention-leeching, thinks-with-his-dick messed up. And I'll regret it for a long time because I let him get away with shit I didn't know any better about.

The end.
If I thought of common sense and tried to be friends first I would've noticed eventually all these flaws of his. I would've taken the nearest exit unscathed.

Mum told me, "It's easy to get laid. It's hard to have a relationship."
A quote worthy of the Nobel Prize.
Kay that's an exaggeration. But she's not talking about a "dating" relationship exactly. She means just a relationship. As in, you don't think about having sex with them within the first 24 hours you learn of their existence.
There are guys I've met, where they're really nice, and I like being with them and I'm interested in getting to know them, and that eventually lands me with a headache when I'm talking to my friends about it.
"I want to hang out with him more."
"OOOOOOOOWRRRR!"
"No, not like that,"
"SUUUURE."
"STFU DX"
I have to lecture them until they're somewhat convinced that I just like making new friends. That shouldn't be hard at all but it is. That's what she said. Ahem. Because sex makes consistent visits in everyone's thoughts.

Maybe I should get this across right now. Sex to ME should be sacred. Literally. Dammit. Actually meaningful and sacred. I don't check out a guy and instantly wonder how good he is in bed. Honestly when I check out a guy I wonder about his personality. Is that SO weird? *facepalm*
Some of my friends get this sacred thing and agree. Some do not. Some scoff at the idea, and it's like a bee sting to me.
I joke about being horny a lot. My circle o' pals does that too. But it's just JOKING. Good God in heaven please I'm only kidding but apparently some people I know are more literal than I thought.

Man...I love making new friends. That's the only way I'll feel safe enough to fall in love. I KNOW them first. And they'll know me.


Okay, I'm really tired and suddenly in a mood. Gotta go.